Mary

"A Ground Breaking Woman is an everyday woman. We see them every day. They are all around us. Every woman I have ever met has an experience that she persevered through, despite doubt and fear. Every one of us has triumphed over some form of adversity. We don’t always give ourselves credit for what we overcome and accomplish. If you want to see a groundbreaking woman, just look in the mirror. I think of women who are accomplishing things no one else has accomplished. I think of women who don’t care what the world has to say, women who break the rules and follow their dreams and unapologetically stay true to their own desires, who want to make an impact on the world around them, who want to leave a legacy of a better world for future generations. "

 
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"My daughter really inspires me. I see so much of myself in her, but she is unfiltered and unbridled. Her joy for even the mundane, her enthusiasm for her interests, her stubbornness when she believes in something just blows me away. She is a phenomenal negotiator, and her brain makes connections so fast. She reminds me that I was created to be more. My limits are self-imposed. When she talks about her dreams, she reminds me to dream again. I work harder at work and play harder at play because I know she is watching. I want to teach her that when she sets her mind to something she can accomplish anything. And the best way to teach that is to do it, so she can learn by example."

 

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"I don’t get embarrassed very easily. I think everyone makes mistakes. If someone wants to judge me or make fun of me I take that as a reflection of them, more than an indication of how I should feel.  At a Christmas party my mentor told my coworkers and my husband that I was a “One Trick Pony.”  He said I wouldn’t be successful and I would never be able to get to the next level without him. It hurt me tremendously. I was so excited about my momentum and accomplishments. I was celebrating what I had learned. I was looking forward to everything I would learn in the next year. Hearing about this derailed me. It crushed me. It took me a long time to realize that he said this because I had outperformed him and he was threatened. Not because it was true. I still see him at work, but I own the company now, so..." 

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"When I was new in my role as a financial advisor I really struggled to launch my career. I had just moved to Dallas and I didn’t know anyone. I spent a lot of time in the office but my career wasn’t going anywhere. I was failing out of the business. One day, one of the top advisors came into my office and without prompting said, “I don’t know what you do all day, but the only reason you aren’t successful is that you’re lazy.” At first I was really offended. Then I realized he was right. I was letting my fear of failure prevent me from doing the hard work it takes to be successful. That day, I made a conscious decision to outwork everyone in the office. Within 2 years I made it into the Chairman’s Council for my broker dealer, beating out thousands of other advisors to make the top 12. Ironically, at the event held to recognize the Top 12, the other advisors congratulated my husband for his early success in our field, assuming he was the advisor instead of me. That in turn taught me that I have to be vocal about my accomplishments. Men have no problem talking about their accomplishments, but as women we are taught to be humble. I say scratch that. Own your accomplishments. Be proud of them. I never want to feel embarrassed by my success. I have been called a bitch so many times in my life. I own it. I love it. bitch = badass! If a man feels the need to call me a bitch I know it’s because he can’t win without stooping to a personal attack."

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"Up until college I had really negative inner dialog. I was constantly berating myself for not being perfect. My sophomore year I was seriously depressed, but so high functioning that no one knew. I started missing classes, then missed several tests, and had to beg professors to let me make up the work. I got lucky because they let me, but even so, my GPA was ruined. I had a really good friend that stepped up and spent a lot of time interrupting my negative thought cycle. He constantly brought my accomplishments to mind. He reminded me of my positive traits, and created a safe place for me to be vulnerable. I started going to therapy (and I still go regularly). That helped me learn to love myself. It helped me learn to be nice to myself. And the nicer I am to myself, the nicer I am to everyone else. The more I focus on what is good about me, the more good I do in the world." 

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"I was recently told that 'I had a drive that was barely comprehensible, that it was evident that I would accomplish any goal I set, and that the world was a better place for my being in it.' There are too many things going on in my life to doubt myself, but it's still nice to hear. I went to Olympic Training Camp for Badminton, made it into the Chairman’s Council (Top 12 Advisors) with my broker dealer while I was still in my 20s.  I read 1-2 books a week- I am a voracious reader and an artist in my spare time. I am a really good Mom to Emily and Connor. It's all about your list of your top ten most important things.  Make the list, if something you're dedicating your time to doesn't fit the list, cross it off. Love, life and family are way too important to waste time on things that don't make the list."